Update – No Complaining-Gossiping-Criticizing Challenge aka We Are Gods
January 20, 2011
I’m loving this No Complaining-Gossiping-Criticizing Challenge!
And I’m not just saying that because I’m trying to make it through a day without complaining.
I’m seven days into the challenge, and I haven’t made it a day yet without complaining, gossiping, or criticising, at least once. Or twice. Or three times. Or five.
This biggest surprise to me has been realizing how much I gossip. I define gossip as talking about another person. The roots of the word gossip are pretty interesting.
To give you some quick background on where I’m coming from: I believe that each of us is God; we are each divine; God is within us because we are conscious, and we are creative, and God is consciousness and creativity.
The word ‘gossip’ comes from the Old English godsibb. God, as in God, and, kinsman. Or…sibling.
When you talk about someone, you are talking about a Sister God or a Brother God.
When you talk about someone, you’re talking about another God.
And you words are limiting and changing that other God.
Words are powerful. Words create.
If I tell you about MY experience of someone else, I’m putting a limit on your perception of that person. Each person will have their own unique, personal experience of any other person; we’re all looking through our own reality tunnels. So whether what I tell you about another person is good or bad, I’m still putting MY filter of that person, my experience, my perception of that person, into your head.
And that’s going to change your experience of that person, even if it’s in a minute, subconscious way.
I’d rather not do that.
I’d rather let you have your own experience of the other person, unadulterated by MY experience (which includes all of my childhood experiences, all of the conditioning I’ve been subjected to, all of the assumptions I’ve made, all of the pain I’ve lived through).
A relationship can ONLY ever involve two people – one on one. Mano-a-mano. God on God.
So, I’ve decided that I want to have my relationships one on one. If someone’s doing something I don’t like, I will talk to them, not talk about them to someone else. If I have an issue I’m trying to work out that involves another person, I might tell a friend the feelings that are coming up for me due to my experience. I still don’t need to talk about the other person to explain the emotions that are occurring in my own body. And if I think someone might be a bad person, I will trust other people to either follow their own intuition, or to learn the lessons they need to experience in their lives to grow to their next level. Trust and Respect.
You’re your own God; you can take care of yourself. I don’t need to spend my energy talking about you.
I’d rather create something.